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Productivity is Poppin’

By August 24, 2016 business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, mentor, mentorship, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hey there, Sugar Pants! I hope all is well your way. If not, please know that I appreciate you reading in spite of and I am always sending love and light the direction of all of my supporters known or unknown. You know how you feel like you try to do everything right and always bend over backwards to help others but then wonder, when is it going to be “my” turn? Those were the nagging and unproductive thoughts that were plaguing me this weekend.If I am being completely honest, I was actually experiencing some self-pity and on the woe-is-me boat for a hot second. Now, I am not one to succumb to that fooleywang nonsense, so of course she was not down and out for long. Welp, I thought I would share with you one of the ways that I squash those pesky, purposeless thoughts. I like to stay POSITIVE and PRODUCTIVE. If you are in need of tips to help with your productivity, read on!

Blazer: Target Tank: Walmart Skirt: Target Shoes: Steve Madden Necklace: Exotic Hush

Blazer: Target
Tank: Walmart
Skirt: Target
Shoes: Steve Madden
Necklace: Exotic Hush

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Can I just say that I am so glad that I gave the blazer-capey deal another shot. Initially, I was not here for it. When I saw this one on clearance at Target, I thought, ehhh why not? I am not disappointed with that decision! Some times you have to get yourself out of your comfort zone and try something new.

5 Tips for Productivity

  1. Stay motivated! Easier said than done right? Well, you want to start with figuring out what motivates you. For me, I get the brunt of my janky tedious work done with upbeat music blasting. Also, I am not above getting my snack on to help motivate me through my work.
  2. Limit distractions! I am not a person who can work through idle chatter and conversations. Therefore, I will play my music (as previously mentioned) except I will bust out my handy dandy Beats by Dre headphones to totally zone out. If I do not have my headphones on deck, then I simply take a plain sheet of paper and write something to the effect of “on a deadline, please do not disturb”. Seems rude, however, I am there to work and I need to limit distractions so I can do just that!
  3. Get organized! Alphabetize your files, clear out your email boxes, de-clutter your desk/office/room/social circle (okay?!?!). Once your life is organized you will be amazed at how much more productive you will be. Your mind is free to plot on ways to execute your plan for world domination. At minimum to ensure your productivity is poppin’ #boop!
  4. Establish a routine! I will be the first to admit, I am a creature of habit. As a matter of fact, my husband’s nickname for me is “Bot” which is short for robot. He recognized in me that I had to have a routine for everything. With that being said, I prioritize my to-do-list and break my day down into 2 hour increments. I have to factor in snack breaks and mental breaks.
  5. Take mini breaks! Taking a break when you’re super swamped seems counter-intuitive. However, giving yourself the opportunity to re-charge and grab a quick second wind might be just what the doctor ordered.

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These are my tips for making it through each day as productively as possible. What are your favorite ways to keep your productivity poppin’? Stylishly yours, KJ.

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Custom Slayed Part II

By August 19, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
DIVINE CREATIONS FASHION AFFAIR 2

Hey chickadees! A few weeks back, I posted here about a custom made outfit that I was anticipating. I actually received the piece a few days after that post was made (YAYYYY!). Today, I wanted to share the ensemble with you and the details of my experience. Can I just say that having your outfit look like it was made for you is one thing but knowing your ensemble was crafted expressly for you is a whole other ballgame!

Pick Your Poison

The first thing that you want to do is figure out what it is that your wardrobe is lacking or it might just be something that you would like to see and haven’t been able to find in the ready-to-wear world. For me, I love jumpsuits and rompers but I wanted to find something that had a peplum with a whimsical train detail. Although I have seen them pop up more recently, I had been pining for an ensemble such as this for years. Literally, I was planning my 10 year vow renewal in my head and I was wearing a white jumpsuit custom-made with a peplum and train. That was around 2012. A few years later I did broach the subject with my mom, Betty Bop, who is one of the most skilled seamstresses that I know. She had been out of the game for a while but now that she has retired from work I thought she may be interested in picking it back up. Fortunately for me, she was!!! Anyway, she had made me several dresses for fashion shows that I was coordinating but we never got around to hashing out the details for my jumpsuit. Until now…OONTZ OONTZ OONTZ OONTZ!

Jumpsuit w/ removable peplum: Divine Creations Fashion Affair Lace Bralette: Charlotte Russe Necklace: Exotic Hush Boutique

Jumpsuit w/ removable peplum: Divine Creations Fashion Affair
Lace Bralette: Charlotte Russe
Necklace: Exotic Hush Boutique                                                                                        Shoes: Charlotte Russe

 

Measure Up

What I did next is take my exact measurements. Now, I’ve had a few custom-made pieces this year but I always take my measurements and send the most accurate numbers to each designer. Due to some overzealous eating this summer my waist had actually gone up an inch so I’m glad that I did re-measure myself, SMH. Ugh measuring is such a pesky annoyance. However, it is key to ensure your end product meets your fit expectations. I am very hippy, very busty and very butt-y. So, you see my concern with finding a jumpsuit that fits like it was made for me? A custom-made jumpsuit is the perfect option for a woman like me.

Perfect Pattern

I will admit I do not know much about patterns or sewing for that matter, much to my mother’s chagrin, I’m sure. What I do is ramble on about all these finicky minute details that I like…piecing a fashionista’s conglomerate Frankenstein of a mess together and she kind of takes it and runs with it. I was fortunate enough to have my mother and father here visiting for a week this summer and although I had to work during their visit my mom and I did visit 2 local fabric stores. But when we were there we were actually looking for fabric and patterns and closures for yet another piece she’s working on for me, wait for it (teehee). We got the opportunity to discuss what I really wanted in my jumpsuit and she planned to look for patterns and fabric on her visit to Atlanta a couple of weeks later. I received several jumpsuit options via text message. I will be honest, because of my love of jumpsuits I really didn’t think that the style of the actual suit mattered because if it was custom-made for me I was going to love it regardless. I have never really met a jumpsuit I did not love! I selected two different patterns, one for the peplum and one for the jumpsuit. Guess what?!?! I was very pleasantly surprised when I received the finished product and it consisted of a detachable peplum! Ummm SCORE! I seriously can create about 50/11 different looks because of that detail…thanks, Mom! But I digress, when searching for your perfect pattern, pay keen attention to the types of fabrics and the details associated with that pattern.

Crop Top: Thrifted Goldenrod shorts (not shown): Target Detachable peplum: Divine Creations Fashion Affair Shoes: Jessica Simpson

Crop Top: Thrifted
Goldenrod shorts (not shown): Target
Detachable peplum: Divine Creations Fashion Affair
Shoes: Jessica Simpson

Les Fabriques

Fun fact, Les Fabriques is the name of one of the sites that hosted one of my interns this summer! Yes but fabric! Ohhhhh my ggggeerrrssshhh! There are so many options! It is a good idea to have in mind what you’re going for before you actually shop for your fabric because you can be sucked in. I knew I wanted something elegant, regal and colorful with a pop. I knew for a fact that I wanted something that I could wear to fashion week and stand out. I wanted something that was purple or eggplant with gold accents. I didn’t want a solid I wanted a pattern… possibly an African print. African prints are extremely hard to find, at least in Arizona where my mom lives, and they’re also expensive. She found a couple of African prints while in Atlanta and sent me text messages of them. I did not think that they would be flattering on my figure as the size and scale of the patterns were not going to be friendly on this body over here. She later found and sent me more swatches and I eventually chose this beautiful paisley print. She mailed a swatch to me and asked me to pick a contrasting color for a lining. I knew immediately that I wanted something gold or goldenrod to really accent this lovely print.

 

Go Time

Once we had all of the pieces in place and we knew exactly what we wanted it was time to make it happen Captain! Did I mention that I text my mom Sunday saying that I had an event to go to the upcoming Friday and it would be awesome to wear the piece to that event and I believe I had it by that Thursday!? That is absolutely unheard of! I can barely think of an outfit to wear in two days, let alone actually sew and ship it!

Denim top: Target Obi belt: The Limited Shorts: JCP Shoes: Charlotte Russe

Denim top: Target
Obi belt: The Limited
Shorts: JCP
Shoes: Charlotte Russe

Final Thoughts

Due to the silky material that we chose, I was very concerned that it would wrinkle and that it wouldn’t fit as well because there was no stretch. Let’s be honest, being over 30 and and having a child, stretch and I have become great acquaintances. Once again, I was very pleasantly surprised that there were minimal wrinkles and where there were wrinkles (in the crotch after sitting) they were pretty undetectable because of the pattern. I can’t really express to you the different personas that were associated with each outfit like I said I felt very regal almost royal in the jumpsuit and peplum. But when I wore the detachable peplum with denim shorts and a denim top I felt like the queen of an urban jungle. I received numerous compliments and so many people were blown away by the outfit AND the styling…score for team Divine Creations Fashion Affair and Chic & Classy Image Consulting! #boop

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One might think that I would be biased because it is my mother who made this piece for me. However, keep in mind that I am a fashionista at heart and I totally give credit where credit is due. The craftsmanship, professionalism, the turnaround time and attention to detail are phenomenal. By the way, please keep an eye out for Divine Creations Fashion Affair! I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my love for fashion is totally a result of the amazingly talented mother I was blessed with. I believe we all have talents and a lot of times those traits that make us good at what we do came directly from our parents or our lineage. Be sure to recognize and acknowledge the talents that make your parents awesome because as children sometimes we tend to overlook that! So, have you considered having a piece custom made? Stylishly yours, KJ.

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Mellow Yellow 5 ways to pull the hue off

By August 16, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hey chickadee! The other day I wore yellow and I noticed people seemed to treat me more warmly than normal. I thought about it and any time I wear any shade of yellow, saffron, goldenrod, sunflowers, mustard, ripe lemons, canary, it is always well received. Such a bright and fun shade can only elicit positivity and smiles right? Yellow is associated with friendliness, amusement, free-spirit and spontaneity. What is funny is the fact that although the majority of my clients gravitate toward the color, they are too intimidated to incorporate yellow in their personal wardrobe. In their defense, yellow IS a bold color and it certainly is not a color that a person who typically plays it safe. I think we could all use a little more sunshine in our lives. Therefore, today, I would love to share tips to help make that happen.

5 Tips on How To Wear Yellow

    1. If your biggest concern with wearing yellow is that it isn’t flattering on your skin, guess what? There are still options for you. Simply keep the hue as far away from your face as possible i.e. you would not want to rock the brightest yellowest scarf around your neck. You should definitely shy away from a yellow top.yellow pants
    2.  I would recommend wearing your pop of yellow in a fun print. This is especially style friendly for those who are leery that the color may be too bright or obnoxious.

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      This funky print in sunny yellow, teal and white is an awesome way to incorporate yellow in your wardrobe.

    3. Add colorful accessories in primary colors for a color block look. Kelly green, cobalt blue, deep purple, Sunkist orange all look amazing paired with yellow. If you want to get your feet wet, find a basic yellow tee, your best fitting jeans, a statement necklace in a contrasting color and your best pair of vibrant shoes. The shoes do not necessarily have to match the necklace, as a matter of fact, the look reads more “effortless” if they do not.yellow tee
    4. So, you know your fave crisp, neutral outfit? How about adding a yellow finishing piece to up the sass factor? Cause, you know, #sass. A nice yellow blazer or cardigan can be just what you need to transform an otherwise boring outfit. Resist the urge to match your shoes to your blazer. Allow the blazer to take center stage. All other elements of the outfit should be kept neutral.

5.Go for yellow shoes! I swear I think I have hit the style jackpot when I stumble upon a haute pair of yellow shoes (no pun intended). They give me endless pleasure, not to mention endless opportunities to #slay.yellow shoes

These are my little sneak attack tips for rocking yellow. How do you wear yellow? Stylishly yours, KJ.

Denim top: Target Skirt: HandM Shoes: JustFab Necklace: Divinisty Charms

Denim top: Target
Skirt: HandM
Shoes: JustFab
Necklace: Divinisty Charms

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4 Reasons why I refuse to criticize Gabby Douglas

By August 12, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, mentor, mentorship, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hello there! I’m going to jump right in. Today, I want to talk about all of the ridiculous criticism that Gabby Douglas has received surrounding her hair. No, I’m not going to touch on the topic of her not crossing her heart during the ceremony that’s for another day. Yes as ridiculous as it sounds I’m going to talk about her hair.

So I want to start with discussing hypercriticism. Hypercriticism is definitely different than being hypocritical. They’re both horrible but I have to say hypercriticism is so toxic. Have you ever noticed that when someone reaches certain ranks or certain notoriety even in their everyday lives, not just necessarily celebrities…we tend to nitpick every little thing. Hey girl did you hear that Tamika is finishing school with a high GPA? That’s all well and good but do you see that hoopty she’s driving? The only GPA she should be concerned about is getting a presentable automobile. I know we’ve all heard criticism along these lines. I personally have shut it down on numerous occasions. So what is the deal with hypercriticism? Let’s break it down.

Hat: Forever 21 Top: H and M Skirt: H and M Shoes: Steve Madden

Hat: Forever 21
Top: H and M
Skirt: H and M
Shoes: Steve Madden

First and foremost, I have never in my life met a hypercritical person who was living a full, happy and satisfied life. With that being said their criticism never comes from a helpful and loving place. Oh, they might try to disguise it as if it does. If they’re called on it they’re likely to say they meant well and it came off wrong because they were joking. In my personal experience their criticism usually comes from a place of boredom, a desire to dominate, discrimination, envy, ego and/or more often than not, extreme dissatisfaction in their own life. These people may not even realize it but their soul purpose is to knock you down a couple of notches. It is easier said than done but you have to recognize the toxic people and eliminate them from your life or at least their influence. Please realize even if these are people that are close to you that no one who is grounded and secure and truly wants the best for you would work so hard to sabotage and minimize all of your hard work!!

How awesome are pockets on skirts?! I love a good pocket moment!

How awesome are pockets on skirts?! I love a good pocket moment!

It’s so weird to me when people are doing great things, they are realizing their dreams and have done their due diligence to be a force to be reckoned with only to be dragged through the mud for silly inconsequential things! Here are my reasons why I refuse to criticize gabby Douglas’ hair.

4 Reasons why I refuse to criticize Gabby

  1. I can barely flip the bird without almost spraining my finger, let alone my entire body at an Olympic level. We have heard the long-standing challenge for years about black women and the struggle we deal with with deciding if we want to work out, be healthy and have an amazing body with less than desirable hair or if we want to have amazingly flawless hair at the expense of our body. We know that sweat wreaks havoc on our hair and we know how much work, time and money it takes to maintain our hair. Guess what else takes work, time and money? Getting to the point of Olympic gold status in gymnastics. Listen I would rather be flipping across your television screen doing what most could never even fathom than sitting on the couch with perfectly coiffed hair criticizing and watching from the sidelines. I’m sorry not even the sidelines in another country. You have to choose your struggle boo.
  2. Not only am I unable to do a decent flip I am just barely getting to a point where I can do my hair presentably and I’m damn near 40 years old. It’s not something that everyone can do. I thank God everyday that he blessed me with Myles instead of a daughter. I think he’s given me more time to figure that whole thing out so that my child is not subjected to mommy’s hot mess hair styling techniques. Give Gabby-Girl a break!
  3. I understand how groupthink, this beast called social media and how superficiality has ran rampant in our society. I remember when Pam Oliver received so much flack about her hair. I didn’t really even know who she was because I don’t follow sports. When I looked her up I’m like wait how many black female sports journalist do we have and this is what you’re talking about?! Why isn’t she being lauded for her accomplishments?!
  4. I am genuinely and truly proud of her POINT. BLANK. PERIOD.

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So there you have the reasons why I refuse to criticize Gabby Douglas. We have so many bigger fish to fry. I really hope that this gives you some insight into the damaging effects of hypercriticism. Here’s to collectively achieving more in our lives than a perfectly slick fried, dyed and laid to the side hair-do. Stylishly yours, KJ.

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Put some respect on it

By August 10, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hey chickadee! Long time no see! I have something on my heart so I felt like I should share it with you guys of course. I usually don’t get super racial, controversial, political, religious any of that fun stuff, although I do have strong opinions about them. I had a recent conversation about baby names and how people choose to name their children. This is a long-standing debate particularly in the black community. I would like to just share my thoughts on the topic.

 

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First and foremost, I think that parents should be able to collaborate and come up with the name that they deem fitting for their child without input from others. I remember when I was pregnant the two factors of having a child that weighed heaviest on my mind was the whole breastfeeding beast and how Chris and I were going to agree on a name! This was a special time for us we had waited seven years to have a child and he was on his way and once we determined that it was a boy we had fun trying to figure out a name. Actually, I take that back “fun” is not the accurate word because we were very serious about this and we’re not really a “serious” couple per se. I think we had the same expectations. We wanted our son to simultaneously command respect but be open and engaging to others, all in a name. We proudly chose Myles Xavier. Surprisingly we agreed on a name before he hit kindergarten. No seriously, I was very surprised that we agreed on a name fairly easily. For the record my husband has a fairly common name, Christopher and of course my name is Khalilah, hi, welcome to my kloset! I will say this, we kind of have a weird dichotomy going on. Of course we embrace our culture and are secure and confident in who we are as people. But we have also experienced our fair share in the world and know what obstacles can be expected for an African American. Even still we didn’t choose his name based off of how commercial it will be. As a matter of fact, that thought never crossed my mind. We don’t expect his name to sell him. We expect his skills, knowledge, abilities and overall marketability to sell him! We work to instill in our son that you should be so good they can’t ignore you. People should clamor to pronounce our names correctly and get each and every syllable out, be it two or 22!

Tee: Aptly this tee is from Own Your Blackness Shorts: JCP Shoes: Lolas Shoetique Clutch: Body Central Earrings: Body Central

Tee: Aptly this tee is from Own Your Blackness
Shorts: JCP
Shoes: Lolas Shoetique
Clutch: Body Central
Earrings: Body Central

The biggest argument that people have for naming their children common, European, regular or as said in the hood: “white” names is it makes it easier for them to get callbacks for interviews, to ensure that their resume isn’t screened out and ultimately to get jobs. This is a valid concern evidenced by a study which was conducted by the National Bureau of Economic Research. “Job applicants with white names needed to send about 10 resumes to get one callback; those with African-American names needed to send around 15 resumes to get one callback.” To put that in perspective that 50% gap is an indication that a white name yields as many more callbacks as an additional eight years of experience (National Bureau of Economic Research).

I just have a few issues with this approach. But the biggest being why are we OK with working for a company that would not give you the opportunity to interview simply because your name has more than two syllables? Next what do you plan to do when you come into your interview? Wear your lightest concealer and foundation? Are you going to come in white face? I’m sure a paper bag covering your face is not going to complement your snazzy interview attire. Here’s a thought: why not cultivate an entrepreneurial spirit in your children and put them in the position of hiring?! Teach them that hard work, an amazing work ethic and doing your best can all be done and it doesn’t have to be at the expense of embracing who you are. Individuality can be an amazing thing. Not to say that a common name doesn’t afford you that but again it’s the background of the decision to go with the common name. I have said this before and it bears repeating, the only combination of letters on my resume that anyone should be concerned with are those that follow my last name, which are MBA or they may take a little interest in my GPA which is 4.0.

I have a real issue with the fact that people are OK with systematic racism and feel that instead of addressing that issue, you need to conform and try your hardest to assimilate. I have to say that I am totally for naming your child whatever you genuinely choose to name your child. However, that choice should not be based on what you feel will garner them the most white acceptance. I am sorry sugar pants, but naming your child a European name in a misguided effort to give them a leg up in this rat race is a temporary solution to a long term problem. Now if you choose to name your child a European name because it’s a family name or you just really like the name, it rolls off your tongue easily, it’s melodic or you always had a desire to name your child this particular name, then more power to you! But if it’s for any other reason you have taken the power out of the name (which ideally they would carry with them for the rest of their lives) before they’re even born in some cases. Kunta Kente vs. Toby. So, you’re telling me that because one rolls more easily and readily off of the tongue that means that that person is more competent, a better worker or has a better work ethic? Well I don’t know, let’s ask the Oprahs, Condoleezzas, Quvenzhanés, Baracks, Denzels, Beyoncés of the world.

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Again, my issue is not with a common name. My issue is with the ideology that sometimes comes with it. With the biggest and most problematic being the generational and long-term effects that basically say “…lose yourself so you can win”. I have always loved my name. I personally appreciate the fact that my parents did not give me an ordinary moniker. Why? Because I aim to be extraordinary, silly. My name is Khalilah, pronounced like Delilah with a “K” and I approve this message. Stylishly yours, Khalilah Jones #boop

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The Good Old Standby

By August 5, 2016 bodycon, brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, mentor, mentorship, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hey Sugar Pants! Just a quick post. I know I sound like a broken record blabbing on and on about how insanely this summer has been. So, I will not bore you with the details. Well, I mean, outside of this camera roll round up. I figured the best way to show what I have been up to would be to show what is in my daily visual diary. I chose my last 10 pictures to give a little idea of what these past few weeks have been about in Khalilahville.

This was the outfit I chose to wear for the fashion show. I was a little hesitant because I do not really "do" leggings OR sets. However, the colors, the dashiki inspired top and how the ensemble fit, sold me! You should definitely check out Fabulously Fierce Boutique. I am so glad that I went ahead and got the outfit because I was really pleased. Others really seemed to appreciate the outfit as well. Moral of the story is, try things outside of your comfort zone. You may just slay #boop

This was the outfit I chose to wear for the fashion show. I was a little hesitant because I do not really “do” leggings OR sets. However, the colors, the dashiki inspired top and how the ensemble fit, sold me! You should definitely check out Fabulously Fierce Boutique. I am so glad that I went ahead and got the outfit because I was really pleased. The cut of the top and the print are really figure flattering. They made my waist seem really tiny and balanced my figure otherwise. The monochromatic look made me look taller and slim. Others really seemed to appreciate the outfit as well. Moral of the story is, try things outside of your comfort zone. You may just slay #boop

You will be very proud to know that I did not buy a single thing. It was super hard because African fashion is my weakness! Once the show was over I had to get outta dodge quick, fast and in a hurry so I would not be tempted.

You will be very proud to know that I did not buy a single thing. It was super hard because African fashion is my weakness! Once the show was over I had to get outta dodge quick, fast and in a hurry so I would not be tempted.

I met this lovely woman who told me she wanted to trade outfits with me. I have to say that I was in awe of all of the brilliantly, vibrant and colorful African attire. Isn't it just awesome when people commit to the theme?! The guest all looked freaking AHHHHMAZING!

I met this lovely woman who told me she wanted to trade outfits with me. I have to say that I was in awe of all of the brilliantly, vibrant and colorful African attire. Isn’t it just awesome when people commit to the theme?! The guest all looked freaking AHHHHMAZING!

The program and souvenir journal from the Chihamba event.

The program and souvenir journal from the Chihamba event.

So, I was super excited to attend the Chihamba African American Fashion and Hair Show. I was pleasantly surprised that it was also a health fair. The speaker provided information about heart health. I learned quite a bit that I did not know in regards to heart health and particularly as it relates to African American women!

So, I was super excited to attend the Chihamba African American Fashion and Hair Show. I was pleasantly surprised that it was also a health fair. The speaker provided information about heart health. I learned quite a bit that I did not know in regards to heart health and particularly as it relates to African American women!

I snapped a picture of my throw pillows that I ironically had thrown on the floor while I was cleaning my couches and straightening my living room. I looked down and thought it looked fun and very visually appealing. I saw this colorful rug and I just had to have it. Our living room has an oxblood accent wall and I really wanted to play off of that wall. I felt that the color would definitely be overwhelming if we did not soften it. I found these throw pillows at Family Dollar. Can I just say I am obsessed with Family Dollar??! Anyway, there is my explanation for this particular pic.

I snapped a picture of my throw pillows that I ironically had thrown on the floor while I was cleaning my couches and straightening my living room. I looked down and thought it looked fun and very visually appealing. I saw this colorful rug and I just had to have it. Our living room has an oxblood accent wall and I really wanted to play off of that wall. I felt that the color would definitely be overwhelming if we did not soften it. I found these throw pillows at Family Dollar. Can I just say I am obsessed with Family Dollar??! Anyway, there is my explanation for this particular pic.

Soooo, yeah, I was sleeping and woke up to what sounded like a thud. I was so discombobulated and was super confused when I woke up. I looked around the house trying to figure out what the sound was. I finally look out the window and noticed that a huge branch of one of the trees in the front yard had fallen across the driveway. I am a person who heeds signs. I took this to mean that I was supposed to take it easy and stay home for the day since I couldn't get out my driveway. Touche' Jesus. Touche'.

Soooo, yeah, I was sleeping and woke up to what sounded like a thud. I was so discombobulated and was super confused when I woke up. I looked around the house trying to figure out what the sound was. I finally look out the window and noticed that a huge branch of one of the trees in the front yard had fallen across the driveway. I am a person who heeds signs. I took this to mean that I was supposed to take it easy and stay home for the day since I couldn’t get out my driveway. Touche’ Jesus. Touche’.

This super sleek and sexy little black dress came from Peony. I have had the pleasure of working as an ambassador for the boutique and this is one of the first pieces they sent me. Chris and I were heading to DC to see Michael Che. It is really pretty sad how rarely we get to go out on dates. Honestly, I do not even consider comedy shows "dates" since Chris does it for work. But you have to take what you can get, so I put on my lbd, highest heels and biggest hair and enjoyed some time with the hubster. Did I mention this was on a Monday night?!? Yes, I was a zombie the next day but I love spending whatever time we can together. Also, I think we have our most transparent conversations when we are on the road. By the way, black is starting to grow on me! ***Please note, I still do not want black anywhere near my funeral upon my untimely demise***

This super sleek and sexy little black dress came from Peony. I have had the pleasure of working as an ambassador for the boutique and this is one of the first pieces they sent me. Chris and I were heading to DC to see Michael Che. It is really pretty sad how rarely we get to go out on dates. Honestly, I do not even consider comedy shows “dates” since Chris does it for work. But you have to take what you can get, so I put on my lbd, highest heels and biggest hair and enjoyed some time with the hubster. Did I mention this was on a Monday night?!? Yes, I was a zombie the next day but I love spending whatever time we can together. Also, I think we have our most transparent conversations when we are on the road. By the way, black is starting to grow on me! ***Please note, I still do not want black anywhere near my funeral upon my untimely demise***

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Busy, busy day this day! I had several site visits and then 2 work place readiness classes. Got to visit with one of my absolute favorite interns and my fave site supervisor at Project Discovery. It has been such a pleasure working with my interns and getting to know local organizations and networking with the supervisors. I rocked this colorful dashiki from Jazzy B's Remixx. I had been searching for shorts like these for quite awhile. I finally found them in the men's section of JCP. I really love how they fit. I don't know what man has the hips that fill these bad boys out like I do but all I know is I am here for it.

Busy, busy day this day! I had several site visits and then 2 work place readiness classes. Got to visit with one of my absolute favorite interns and my fave site supervisor at Project Discovery. It has been such a pleasure working with my interns and getting to know local organizations and networking with the supervisors. I rocked this colorful dashiki from Jazzy B’s Remixx. I had been searching for shorts like these for quite awhile. I finally found them in the men’s section of JCP. I really love how they fit. I don’t know what man has the hips that fill these bad boys out like I do but all I know is I am here for it.

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As mentioned, it was an extremely long day so instead of rushing home to cook, I took my hubby up on the suggestion that we go grab some bbq takeout. I like to snap a quick usie ever so often to send to the bambino while he's away. The chicken and cream cheese pound cake were for sure a highlight of my day!

As mentioned, it was an extremely long day so instead of rushing home to cook, I took my hubby up on the suggestion that we go grab some bbq takeout. I like to snap a quick usie ever so often to send to the bambino while he’s away. The chicken and cream cheese pound cake were for sure a highlight of my day!

So that is my week in a nutshell. I think I really like the camera roll deal. What was your week like? I hope it was pleasant. Stylishly yours, KJ

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Custom Slayed

By July 27, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
This is right up my alley! Hi, friend! Nice to meet you beautiful!

Hey chickadees! I am super excited about a few custom made pieces that are currently in the works. I have been super blessed that there are people who are amazingly talented and willing to create beautiful wearable art for me. Today I would like to share a sneak peek of one of these ensembles.

This is right up my alley! Hi, friend! Nice to meet you beautiful!

This is right up my alley! Hi, friend! Nice to meet you beautiful!

Everybody and their grandma knows that I live for a good jumpsuit moment. A few years ago, I was fantasizing about a destination vow renewal for my 10th marriage anniversary. Of course, part of this fantasy was envisioning what I would wear for the ceremony. I did not want a dress. What I pictured was a regal, custom made jumpsuit of fabulosity. I wanted a jumpsuit with a peplum-y train. Welp, fast forward 3 years and our 10th anniversary has come and gone. I did not get the renewal, but guess what?! I get the jumpsuit! #boop.

I adore African and ethnic prints. However, I thought the scale, size and shape of this print would make me look larger than I am. Ummm, the devil is a lie!

I adore African and ethnic prints. However, I thought the scale, size and shape of this print would make me look larger than I am. Ummm, the devil is a lie!

I like this print but the scale, size and shape would not be friends with my hips, butt and breast. #youcantsitwithus

I like this print but the scale, size and shape would not be friends with my hips, butt and breast. #youcantsitwithus

 

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Some of the fabric swatches that were sent to me for final approval

I really thought this would be a pretty as a contrasting lining, particularly for the train/peplum.

I really thought this would be pretty as a contrasting lining, particularly for the train/peplum.

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I can see rocking a number like this to fashion week or any number of fashion events I often attend. As a matter of fact, I have a shoot and a fashion show coming up this weekend so I may get to rock her sooner than later! My vision was something regal (think lux purple or gold), something with a fun yet funky print and an extra unexpected element. We shall see what the final product yields.

I was not feeling the short part of the skirt...I would prefer it to be more fitted and for it to look like 2 separate pieces (even if the peplum/train was detachable would be fun. But this was a general idea of what I was going for as an addition to a jumpsuit.

I was not feeling the short part of the skirt…I would prefer it to be more fitted and for it to look like 2 separate pieces (even if the peplum/train was detachable would be fun. But this was a general idea of what I was going for as an addition to a jumpsuit.

As, I type this, this beauty is on her way to me. Can we say excited?!? Please stay tuned for pictures. If you could have any piece made specifically for you, what would she look like? Stylishly yours, KJ

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OOTD Week in Review

By July 25, 2016 business, confidence, fashion, general, life hacks, lifestyle, mentor, mentorship, networking, ootd, self esteem, style
Bow: Custom made
Tank: Walmart
Overalls: Thrifted
Wedge sneakers: Rock & Republic
Bracelet: Body Central
Bag: Target

Hey, Chickadees! Is anyone else feeling super busy this summer? I promise, I have been busier than a $2 whore on nickel night! Fortunately, I do see a little smidge of light at the end of the tunnel. The summer is kind of winding down, which also means that I get to get the bambino back from his summer time visit with NahNah and PopPop in upstate New York. But I digress. Today, I decided to do an “outfit of the day” week in review.  I work with 26 summer interns on 6 different sites and visit with site supervisors weekly. In addition to facilitating 2 work place readiness courses weekly. Anyway, I want to share my outfits for the week and where I wore them. Typically, I wear dressy or business casual clothes. However, my current workload and schedule has afforded me the opportunity to get creatively casual.

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Dress: Thrifted Necklace: Old Navy Shoes: Chucks On this particular day, I had several site visits and then to facilitate 2 work place readiness courses. Usually, I wear this dress with a pair of sky high yellow pumps with an ankle cuff. I decided to swap my cuffs for chucks because I knew I would be visiting a doggie daycare as well as lots of walking with supplies downtown. I think I struck a balance of uber cute and functional.

Dress: Thrifted
Necklace: Old Navy
Shoes: Chucks
On this particular day, I had several site visits and then to facilitate 2 work place readiness courses. Usually, I wear this dress with a pair of sky high yellow pumps with an ankle cuff. I decided to swap my cuffs for chucks because I knew I would be visiting a doggie daycare as well as lots of walking with supplies downtown. I think I struck a balance of uber cute and functional. Quick tip: If you’re rocking a boxy or shapeless dress, opt for a cute little belt to cinch in the waist and balance your silhouette.

 

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Top: Thrifted Culottes: Forever 21 Shoes: Charlotte Russe Necklace: Charlotte Russe

Top: Thrifted
Culottes: Forever 21
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
Necklace: Charlotte Russe
Another super busy day, lots of running around. OMG a crapton of driving and face to face meetings. Oooh, but I discovered a fun little made to order donut spot called Duck Donuts. Generally speaking, I am a “yeast” donut type of gal. But I have to admit I wouldn’t kick these vanilla cake donuts out the bed. They were maple bacon, strawberry, cookies and cream and lots of other NOMMY offerings. Ok, but back to this outfit, I really feel like I do boho well. It is one of my fave types of looks to rock. I think the whole free spirited and organic feel of it all just truly speaks to who I am as a person.

Top: Thrifted Tank: Walmart Tutu: Charlotte Russe Shoes (both flats and Mary Janes): Charlotte Russe Bracelet: Body Central After loads of paperwork and reports, I had 2 more classes to teach immediately followed by a steering committee meeting for the Interest Group of 100 Black Women of the Charlottesville Metropolitan Area

Top: Thrifted
Tank: Walmart
Tutu: Charlotte Russe
Shoes (both flats and Mary Janes): Charlotte Russe
Bracelet: Body Central
After loads of paperwork and reports, I had 2 more classes to teach immediately followed by a steering committee meeting for the Interest Group of 100 Black Women of the Charlottesville Metropolitan Area. I brought my fun Mary Janes to wear to my meetings. But how awesome to find a cute little pair of pointy toe oxblood ballet flats!

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OOTD WEEK IN REVIEW 3

Dress: Thrifted Necklace: Old Navy Boots: Wet Seal OMG so it was oppressively humid and HOT this day. I love the movement and body in this dress. Every time I wear this dress I remember when I rocked it at 8 months pregnant. There's a little nostalgia there but I am so glad that I am still able to wear this dress. I never hold on to pieces simply for nostalgia's sake.

Dress: Thrifted
Necklace: Old Navy
Boots: Wet Seal
OMG so it was oppressively humid and HOT this day. It was about 96 degrees with 55% humidity. I knew I would have to wear something lightweight so I would live to see another day. I love the movement and body in this dress. Every time I wear it I remember when I rocked it at 8 months pregnant. There’s a little nostalgia there, but I am so glad that I am still able to wear this dress. I never hold on to pieces simply for nostalgia’s sake. What I love about this piece is that it balances the silhouette because it cinches at the waist and the style lengthens. Quick tip: Adding an unexpected shoe gives a girly dress a fun and funky twist.

OOTD WEEK IN REVIEW 5

Tank: Target Pants: Thrifted Shoes: Chucks Top (worn at the waist): Rue 21 Necklace: Old Navy YAYYYY! Today I visited with about 12 of my interns. Of course, I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Knowing that I had so much running around to do, I wanted to be comfy and casual. I also like to wear attire that helps the teens to engage and relate with me. Again with this heat though!?!? Sheesh!

Tank: Target
Pants: Thrifted
Shoes: Chucks
Top (worn at the waist): Rue 21
Necklace: Old Navy
YAYYYY! Today I visited with about 12 of my interns. Of course, I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Knowing that I had so much running around to do, I wanted to be comfy and casual. I also like to wear attire that helps the teens to engage and relate with me. Again with this heat though!?!? Sheesh!

Blazer: Target Tank: Target Skirt: Target Necklace: Thrifted Shoes: Charlotte Russe Today was a two-fer, I had to rush home and swap my pants and chucks for this skirt and heels for part 2 of my day. Unfortunately, the skirt subsequently got ruined in the wash due to my husband's errant cherry chapstick. I was devastated because I love this reversible skirt. It actually feels like I lost 2 of my favorite pieces. I highly doubt I will be able to find a similar pleated, reversible, high-low skirt. It's a sad day in Khalilahville

Blazer: Target
Tank: Target
Skirt: Target
Necklace: Thrifted
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
Today was a two-fer, I had to rush home and swap my pants and chucks for this skirt and heels for part 2 of my day. Unfortunately, the skirt subsequently got ruined in the wash due to my husband’s errant cherry chapstick. I was devastated because I love this reversible skirt. It actually feels like I lost 2 of my favorite pieces. I highly doubt I will be able to find a similar pleated, reversible, high-low skirt. It’s a sad day in Khalilahville!

OOTD WEEK IN REVIEW 1

Maxi top: Target Tank: Walmart Shorts: Old Navy Wedges: Charlotte Russe Necklace: Faythful Treasures Handbag: JustFab Saturday afternoon I headed over to the Total Package fashion and style event in Richmond. I totally had something else planned to wear but guess what? My freaking iron decided to go kaput. I do not like to iron at ALL...so, #lookatGod

Maxi top: Target
Tank: Walmart
Shorts: Old Navy
Wedges: Charlotte Russe
Necklace: Faythful Treasures
Handbag: JustFab
Saturday afternoon I headed over to the Total Package fashion and style event in Richmond. I totally had something else planned to wear but guess what? My freaking iron decided to go kaput. I do not like to iron at ALL…so, #lookatGod

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Relationship: Unprompted and Unadulterated

By July 22, 2016 brand ambassador, business, confidence, fashion, general, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hey Sugar Pants! I quizzed the hubster for our entertainment #yourewelcome! So, without any prompting, I asked Christopher these questions and wrote down exactly what he had to say. I was surprised by some of his responses, confused by a few and touched by some of the others.

Partner’s Name:

Khalilah J (KJ): Chris

Chris J (CJ): Khalilah

What is something I always say to you?

CJ: Can you turn that down?

KJ: Wanna do it?

What makes me happy?

CJ: Baths

KJ: Anything related to comedy

What makes me sad?

CJ: Showers

KJ: Thinking about life/mortality

Drawstring Dashiki: Jazzy B's Remixx Boutique Shorts: Old Navy Shoes: Charlotte Russe Earrings: Body Central

Drawstring Dashiki: Jazzy B’s Remixx Boutique
Shorts: Old Navy
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
Earrings: Body Central

 

What was I like as a child?

CJ: I don’t know. Probably pretty nerdy. Smart mouth. Probably annoying…too grown

KJ: SUPER nerdy but still a jerk

How old am I?

CJ: 37ish

KJ: 36

What’s my favorite thing to do?

CJ: Used to be read…now chill in pajamas, watch tv and eat

KJ: Have a brew and watch a marathon on tv

What do I do when you’re not around?

CJ: Facebook, always working on something (like your blog)

KJ: Hanging out with friends, having drinks and watching tv

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What am I good at?

CJ: Writing. Fashion. Mothering.

KJ: Writing comedy. Performing. Networking.

What am I not good at?

CJ: Trusting yourself. Not good at hearing criticism

KJ: Listening. You tend to anticipate or assume what you think I am going to say and proceed as though it were actually what I said.

What makes you proud of me?

CJ: How you are as a person. I know my wife is not like a lot of women. You’re just different.

KJ: Your resilience. Your perseverance. The fact that you work super hard at your craft!

What’s my favorite food?

CJ: Mexican

KJ: Steak

What do we do together?

CJ: Argue. Eat & sleep

KJ: We try to eat dinner together, travel together when we can. We honestly do not like a lot of the same things and I think that is what makes us unique as a couple. I genuinely appreciate our differences. The most important thing we do together is raise Myles!

How are you and I the same?

CJ: Big lips, we’re what others would call “creative” types

KJ: I think we both love hard. We are both extremely good friends to others and we are loyal. But to his point, physically, we both have big lips and big butts.

Where is my favorite place to eat?

CJ: Macayo’s

KJ: Carrabba’s

How old was I when I met you?

CJ: 24

KJ: 23

When is our anniversary?

CJ: January 27th

KJ: January 27, 2015

If I could go anywhere, where would it be?

CJ: Atlanta

KJ: NYC or maybe the comedy festival in Montreal

Do you think you could live with me forever?

CJ: Yes

KJ: Yes, dirty dishes and all.

How do I annoy you?

CJ: Doing these surveys. When you complain

KJ: When you put dirty dishes in the sink after I’ve cleaned the kitchen. When you do not pay attention to details.

What’s your favorite thing about me?

CJ: Honesty. Kinda hit the wall on looks. Encouragement. Wisdom.

KJ: My absolute fave thing about you is your devotion and passion for the things/people you love!

These are rando responses from the hubster and I. I have to admit, I had to resist the urge to add commentary to his responses. Also, it was my intention to record exactly what he said. However, I totally underestimated the number of inappropriate sexual responses a 36 year old man can come up with for questions that are not remotely related to sex. If you have a significant other, maybe you should give this a shot. It really helps you to get insight into the way your loved one sees you. Do you think you would be surprised by your significant other’s responses? Stylishly yours, KJ.

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This happened…

By July 18, 2016 business, confidence, fashion, general, lifestyle, ootd, self esteem, style
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Hello Sugar Pants! So, yeah, it is after 8pm on a Sunday and I just realized I had not scheduled my post for tomorrow. YIKES! Instead of one of my overly rambly posts, today I will go back to the old days when I used to simply do outfit of the day (OOTD) posts.

Denim shirt: Old Navy Ankle pants: JCP Shoes: Jessica Simpson Necklace: Plato's Closet

Denim shirt: Old Navy
Ankle pants: JCP
Shoes: Jessica Simpson
Necklace: Plato’s Closet

Can I just say that I absolutely love this brilliantly bright Sunkist orange color?!? I am fully aware how obnoxious these gems can be. However, I feel that they can be pulled off effectively if the assisting cast plays their part right. In my look, I opted for one of my favorite denim shirts a necklace that matches the ankle pants and leopard print heels. You can find these amazing ankle pants (as well as lots of other brilliant colors) at JcPenny. I found this shirt at Old Navy and bought these shoes brand new from a consignment shop in DC.

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So, what do you think of this look? How would you rock these pants? Stylishly yours, KJ.

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